Lost your mojo?

Mojo. Have you lost it? Did you even know what it was or where it was before you lost it? We all kind of know what we mean when people use the phrase.

Google says this: "In today's language, the word mojo refers to a source of vigour, energy, sexual potency, and power. If you are feeling depleted, overwhelmed, stressed out, frumpy, tired, bored or lethargic, you may have lost your mojo. Once you lose it, it is really hard to find the motivation to reclaim it."

And that’s right. When it goes astray, it is hard to get your mojo back.

I have been seeing quite a few clients recently who have lost their mojo – it is incredibly frustrating knowing that you have it in there somewhere but just can’t quite locate it.

The hassles of modern-day life mean we are spinning so many plates. Sometimes the pressures of work or family life get in the way of making time for ourselves. We forget the little pleasures in life that used to give us a lift as we constantly run from pillar to post. That’s how we lose track of our mojo. It’s like anything else – you need to look after it.

So here are a few ideas which should help you…

One of my clients likened losing their mojo to their battery running on red. So, they had a great idea that had a huge impact on their well-being. Every time they felt that battery start to flicker on red, they would take time out to sit in a chair and just close their eyes. This allowed their battery to charge and turn back to green after about 10-15 minutes.

Another client decided to schedule 20-30 minute meetings with themselves to ensure they had that all-important ‘me-time’.

Whether it is stepping outside with your cup of tea or coffee rather than sitting in front of a computer or device, reading, writing or calling a friend – all of these little rewards during the day have a significant impact on our well-being. If they are not scheduled into the list of chores, very often, we don’t make time for these simple pleasures. So, make time for your mojo.

We all need goals and get a lovely surge of dopamine every time we can either mentally or physically tick something off the to-do list. Ensuring you set small achievable goals means you get a regular dose of this wonderful chemical – we are dopamine creatures and always looking for the next reward. By making the goals small and achievable you are ensuring we are not setting yourself up for a fall. It is great to have life plans, just don’t forget the small steps to get you there.

You can find your mojo again. And these ideas will help. Using psychotherapy and solution-focused hypnotherapy, I work to get clients back in control feeling less anxious, more in control of their lives and in tune with their mojo. For more information, please get in touch with me.