Find freedom: Self-compassion & CBH for social anxiety relief

Social anxiety can be a debilitating condition that affects many aspects of life, including relationships, work and personal well-being. However, one effective tool for managing social anxiety is building self-compassion.


What is self-compassion?

Self-compassion involves treating oneself with kindness, understanding, and a recognition of one's common humanity, rather than criticising or judging oneself harshly. This can be especially helpful for individuals with social anxiety, who often struggle with negative self-talk and feelings of shame or insecurity. 

Cognitive behavioural hypnotherapy for self-compassion

Cognitive behavioural hypnotherapy (CBH) can also be a useful tool in building self-compassion. CBH is a form of therapy that combines cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) with hypnosis.

CBT is a proven therapy for social anxiety that helps individuals identify and reframe negative thoughts and behaviours. In CBH, hypnosis allows the individual to access their unconscious mind and change negative thought patterns and behaviours at a deeper level. The hypnotic state can also be used to develop a greater sense of self-compassion through suggestion and visualisation techniques. 

Building self-compassion when you have social anxiety

Here are some tips for building self-compassion for people with social anxiety:

  1. Be mindful of negative self-talk - Negative self-talk can be a major contributor to social anxiety. Pay attention to your inner dialogue and try to identify negative thoughts or statements. Replace these negative thoughts with kind and supportive statements, as you would say to a friend. 
  2. Practice self-compassion exercises - There are many self-compassion exercises that can help build a greater sense of self-compassion. These might include writing yourself a self-compassion letter, or using self-compassionate affirmations. 
  3. Acknowledge your common humanity - One of the key components of self-compassion is recognising that everyone experiences difficulties and setbacks, including yourself. Try to remember that everyone has weaknesses, fears, and insecurities and that you are not alone. 
  4. Cultivate gratitude - Gratitude is a powerful tool for building self-compassion. Focus on the things in your life that you are grateful for, such as your relationships, health, and experiences. By focusing on gratitude, you can shift your focus away from negative self-talk and feelings of shame or insecurity. 
  5. Challenge perfectionism - Perfectionism can be a major barrier to self-compassion. Try to let go of the need to be perfect and accept yourself as you are. Recognise that mistakes and failures are opportunities for growth and learning. 

When to seek professional help

If your social anxiety is affecting your daily life and your ability to form meaningful relationships, it may be helpful to seek professional help. A therapist can help you develop coping strategies, provide support and guidance, and help you build self-compassion.  

Building self-compassion can be a powerful tool for managing social anxiety. By combining self-compassion exercises with Cognitive behavioural hypnotherapy, individuals can change negative thought patterns, build self-confidence, and form more fulfilling relationships. Remember to be kind and patient with yourself, and give yourself credit for your progress. With time and effort, you can build self-compassion and overcome the challenges of social anxiety. 

The views expressed in this article are those of the author. All articles published on Hypnotherapy Directory are reviewed by our editorial team.

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Written by Josephine Tripier Lorio, Dip Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapy(CBH), MSc Psy, BSc OT
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Jo is a qualified Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapist with a Master's degree in psychology and extensive experience working as an Occupational Therapist in NHS mental health services. As a Hypnotherapist she specialises in anxiety-related issues such as social anxiety, confidence, public speaking, imposter syndrome, and perfectionism.

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