Stuck in neutral? How to release your inner handbrake

Does your life ever feel like you're sitting in a car with the handbrake stuck on? You want to get going but something’s stopping you. It’s frustrating and what’s worse, you have a sense that even if you could move from where you are, you’re in unfamiliar territory and you don’t even have a map to guide you.


Well, you're not alone. Many of us encounter moments in our lives when we feel immobilised, or "stuck" The good news is though, that while these feelings are uncomfortable, they are not permanent.

So how do you know if you’re stuck or lost?

You may have heard of the wheel of life self-reflection tool, which is split into sections representing life areas like health, career, finances, relationships, personal growth, and more. It provides a visual representation of our satisfaction in these areas. When these sectors are balanced, we experience harmony. However, if any area is neglected or overemphasised, it can affect our balance, creating a wobble or even grinding us to a halt, preventing us from achieving overall contentment and progress in life.

For example, a feeling of being stuck might strike in the morning as you're getting ready for work. As you look in the mirror, staring back at you is someone who on the outside looks the picture of professional success, but inside you feel hollowed out, yearning for a different career that fulfils your passions and talents.

It may hit you when you’re out for coffee with friends, when you're surrounded by the chatter of and laughter of the group, but somehow, you feel strangely detached, with a gnawing loneliness and sense of loss, and a yearning for deeper, more meaningful connections.

Or maybe it creeps in when the world turns quiet, under the cover of night. As everyone else finds solace in sleep, your thoughts start to crowd in. Lying there, staring at the ceiling, they mock you, suggesting what you desire in life is teasingly just beyond your grasp. They whisper doubts, hinting that maybe what you’re looking for is meant only for others, not for you. They imply that somehow, you don’t deserve anything better.

Do any of these resonate with you?

Being stuck or lost can feel like a seemingly endless loop of fears, frustration and dissatisfaction.

Perhaps it’s a past failure that's holding you back, preventing you from pursuing a fulfilling career. Or maybe it's a fear of rejection that's built walls around you, isolating you from forming deeper connections.

Whatever it is, your hypnotherapist can help you pinpoint these vulnerabilities, allowing you to understand and confront them.

Armed with this newfound self-awareness, you can then reshape those entrenched beliefs. It's not about erasing past experiences but about rebuilding them, as though you’re transforming a rough track littered with potholes into a smooth tarmac surface, where you can finally relax and enjoy the journey.

So, the next time you feel like you're spinning your wheels or idling, pointlessly, remember - you don't have to let 'stuckness' define your life journey. Through hypnotherapy, you can develop a clear roadmap for your life and finally release that handbrake that's been holding you back.

What’s stopping you?

The views expressed in this article are those of the author. All articles published on Hypnotherapy Directory are reviewed by our editorial team.

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Written by Jane Stewart, GQHP, CNHC online hypnotherapist
Inverness, Highland, IV2

Jane Lakeland, a GHR-registered hypnotherapist since 2016, works online from the Scottish Highlands Her practical approach is focused on achieving significant positive transformations. She strongly believes that the extraordinary can be brought into ordinary people's lives and specialises in guiding her clients to overcome personal limitations.

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