Hypnotherapy for narcissistic abuse

Narcissistic abuse can leave you feeling very drained and exhausted, both during and in the aftermath. Most victims are trauma-bonded where they become addicted to the abuse cycle. They will find that they are intertwined in the cycle of love-bombing, devaluing, and discarding before they are ready to go no contact. The break-up will feel like no other because the individual is unable to move forward in many aspects of their life.

Most survivors come to the realisation that they have been a victim of narcissistic abuse much later on, and when they are too deep into the relationship, they find they are desperately trying to make the relationship work, but their efforts are thwarted. They find themselves stuck, and not being able to let go becomes a challenge because they are desperate to make the relationship work.

Many victims are left with symptoms of complex post-traumatic stress disorder, (PTSD), and managing their general day to day can be a struggle. Abuse survivors may find that they experience low self-esteem and confidence, anger, disbelief, insomnia, panic attacks, anxiety, triggering moments, and many more.

When the individual begins to delve deeper into understanding narcissistic abuse, they may find that they have co-dependency issues where they are unable to put their own needs first and will always consider others before them. No matter how much they want to say ‘no’ they simply cannot as they do not want to upset someone else.

This however creates suffering in the victim as they find that they go along with things that they do not want to, and in many cases, there are no firm boundaries that are affirmed from a young age. As firm boundaries have not been learned as a child this perception is carried forward into adulthood. As an adult, they are unable to trust their judgment and perception of what is acceptable and what is not. Many find that they are in several dysfunctional relationships until they are able to break free.

Hypnotherapy for narcissistic abuse

If you have found that you are a victim of narcissistic abuse, therapy can help you to understand what you have been through and give you validation. You may find that no one understands and no one is listening to you, but working with a therapist that understands may help to restore your confidence.

Abusive relationships can leave you feeling low, feeling angry, having a lack of confidence, feeling depressed, experiencing insomnia, not being able to let go and much more.

Hypnotherapy can help to re-programme your mind and behaviour, remove negative thoughts or emotions by tapping into the subconscious mind whilst you are in a relaxed state, and replace the negative thoughts with positive thoughts. For example, you may have lost all of your confidence. The hypnotherapist will help to re-programme your mind by giving you positive suggestions during a relaxed state, so that when you wake up you are filled with a surge of confidence and increased self-esteem.

You may also want to consider hypnotherapy for anger management, insomnia, inner child work, panic attacks, or anxiety, which can be caused by ongoing abuse.

Eye movement desensitisation reprocessing (EMDR) can help you to release and process the traumas you have been through which sit in the raw part of your brain, the subconscious mind. When they are stored in the raw part of the brain they are on an auto replay and you will find that you re-live the trauma over and over again like the present every time there is a trigger. This creates feelings of severe anxiety, being stuck and not being able to move on.

Your hypnotherapist may also teach you meditation to use in between sessions. It is important that to allow the body to heal and relax. Meditation may help you to clear the monkey chatter and to lift the fog off your brain. Meditation may allow you to think more clearly and to see things from a different perspective, thus allowing you to make better choices for yourself. Your therapist may give you an MP3 to listen to in between sessions, or teach you how you can meditate at your own pace.

Hypnotherapy Directory is not responsible for the articles published by members. The views expressed are those of the member who wrote the article.

Share this article with a friend
Leicestershire, LE1

Written by Manjit Ruprai

Leicestershire, LE1

I am a clinical hypnotherapist in Leicester. I am a published author and have contributed a chapter to the Hypnotherapy Experts. My work is regularly featured on BBC Radio Leicester. I work closely with individuals that have experienced, narcissistic abuse, weight issues, anxiety, phobias and many more. I work with many from around the world.

Show comments

Find the right hypnotherapist for you

All therapists are verified professionals.