Relationship issues

Us humans are social beings; we crave connection, intimacy and conversation. It’s perhaps no surprise then that when our relationships are in danger, we are deeply affected.

Whether these relationships are platonic or romantic, our emotions attached to them can be complicated. Often, experiences we have when we’re young affect our relationships as adults. We can learn unhelpful behaviours and be subconsciously affected by past events.

Hypnotherapy is a powerful tool for change and can help us understand why we feel and behave the way we do and support us to develop new ways of thinking. Here we’ll look into some of the most common relationship issues and how hypnotherapy for relationships can help.

Conflict within relationships

It is perfectly normal for there to be conflict in relationships. We’re not always going to agree with one another and it’s healthy for us to challenge each other and learn to see things from other people’s perspective. When conflict becomes a constant presence in relationships, however, and the arguments taking place do so with malice, anger and little sense of resolution, it may be time to step back and question things.

Having an honest conversation with the other person is a great place to start. You may be able to uncover some hidden tensions or resentments that are driving the frequent conflict. If you feel you would benefit from support with this, you may want to consider hypnotherapy.

Hypnotherapy for relationships - how it can help ease conflict

Sometimes when we argue with people, we’re repeating patterns. If you’ve ever felt like you’ve had the same argument, again and again, you’ll understand what we mean. These patterns can come from our subconscious and may even be something our younger selves are battling with internally.

Hypnotherapy can help you get to the root of your conflict. It can help you determine if there are any patterns of behaviour stored in your subconscious that are contributing to the conflict. If there are, your hypnotherapist will be able to offer suggestions to help encourage new ways of thinking. This is done while you are in a state of hypnosis - a deep relaxation where your subconscious is more open to suggestion.

Hypnotherapy can also help you learn to cope with conflict and manage difficult emotions more easily. It can help you build confidence and ask for what you need, something that is so important in relationships. Communication is vital and hypnotherapy may well be able to help you with this.

This video from School of Life looks into ways we can be heard in relationships. 

Recovering from toxic relationships

A toxic relationship is any relationship that has a damaging effect on you. This could involve a friend who always makes you feel bad about yourself or even being in an abusive relationship. Leaving relationships like this comes with its own sets of challenges. Often when we find ourselves in these situations we are being manipulated and lack the self-esteem and confidence needed to walk away.

If you are in an abusive relationship, please know that help is available - websites like Refuge and the Men’s Advice Line offer information, support and helplines.

After you leave a relationship like this, it can be difficult to get back to normal. You may find it hard to rebuild your confidence or overcome traumatic memories. Talking therapies such as counselling and hypnotherapy can support you with this.

Hypnotherapy for relationships - how it can help with toxic relationships

If you need help building your self-esteem and confidence, hypnotherapy could help. Unhelpful patterns of thinking or behaviour can be addressed, allowing you to move on and reconnect with yourself and your needs. It can help you rediscover your strength and ability to cope with the residual emotions from the relationship. You have a huge amount of power within you and hypnotherapy can help you tap into that and encourage you to hold your head up high.

Often used to manage anxiety, hypnotherapy can also help you anchor yourself in a safe place, learning to self-soothe and manage difficult memories.    

Moving on from a break-up

Break-ups can be incredibly sad and painful to experience. Whether the decision was mutual or not, the pain can linger long after the relationship ends. For some people, time and support from friends can help them move on and start the next chapter of their lives. For others though, the cycle of grief and loss that is so often felt after a break-up can be all-consuming and more difficult to escape. Often this is caused by an unconscious denial or non-acceptance of what’s happened.

Hypnotherapy for relationships - how it can help you move on

Being stuck in certain ways of thinking, feelings and behaviours is something hypnotherapy can really support. Hypnotherapy can help you to reframe negative thoughts and behaviours and encourage you to see the break-up from a new, more positive perspective. For example, instead of feeling like your relationship was a failure, hypnotherapy can help you see how the relationship helped you learn something.

Hypnotherapist Natasha Kelly writes about break-ups in her article 'Heal your heart with hypnosis':

To change your behaviours you need to change your feelings and to change your feelings you need to change your thoughts. If you are feeling stuck in pain, you have chosen unproductive thoughts and unproductive thoughts are unproductive! Hypnosis could help you reframe. Instead of seeing yourself as a victim you could consider yourself a victor. You were brave enough to take the plunge and allow yourself to fall in love.

Dating confidence

Whether you’ve just come out of a relationship or you’ve been single for a while - dating can be a daunting experience. Meeting new people, opening up and allowing yourself to be vulnerable can be very difficult for some of us. You may struggle with confidence or even find yourself building walls and not allowing others in.

Hypnotherapy for relationships - how it can improve your confidence

Having a strong sense of self-belief is essential while dating. It allows you to feel confident in knowing what you want, what you deserve, and not settling for anything less. Hypnotherapy can help with this by reframing negative or limiting beliefs you might have about yourself (such as “I don’t deserve love”) into more positive suggestions to increase confidence and self-belief.

If you struggle with letting people in, hypnotherapy can help you uncover any subconscious reasons why and help to encourage new patterns of behaviour. Getting hurt is always a risk when it comes to relationships, but by building up your sense of worth and emotional resilience, it becomes a risk worth taking.

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