Such self-destructing behaviours lead to indecision, procrastination, lack of focus, anger, self-doubt, self-pity and more. So whether your are trying to cope with a lack of motivation or too much pressure, you may need to adjust your expectations and priorities.
Breaking the cycle
1. Recognise the pattern
You need to recognise the pattern before you can break the cycle of self-sabotage. If you get a mental block at work, you will most likely focus on small, trivial tasks just to take your mind off things. A presentation may be due tomorrow, but right now you want to check your emails, reorganise your desk or talk with colleagues. These small distractions are called ‘non-confronts’; finding things to occupy your time so you have the perfect excuse when your current project goes unfinished.
2. Break the habit
When you find yourself taking part in a non-confront, immediately stop and think about why you are doing it. Are you scared of failure or rejection? Is your work unsatisfying or unfulfilling? Whatever the reason is, you need to find a way to motivate yourself to overcome it.
Try to think about the consequences of this self-sabotaging behaviour. Will your income or health suffer because you are putting this off? Will you feel mad or angry that you wasted your time?
3. Implement the change
You are the who you manages your thoughts. The information and environment that you expose yourself to will dictate the outcome of your life. If personal development tapes help and motivate you, listen to them. But if you’re having trouble implementing the change by yourself, you could employ the help of a hypnotherapist. Hypnosis is a tool that can be used to gain control over your emotions, undesirable behaviours, habits and thoughts.