Lost your mojo?
"Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans'" - Allen Saunders.
Sometimes you just wake up and realise that your mojo has gone. It has disappeared, got up and walked. You don't understand it - how can something you want and enjoy so much diminish? If you don't understand how you lost it, how can you expect to get it back if you don't know where to look?
There are many reasons why your sex drive can decrease or disappear altogether regardless of whether you are a man or a woman. It can creep up suddenly without you even realising and it may take your partner to point it out to you before you sit up and take note. There may be something worrying you, constantly playing on your mind and this can have an impact on your general health and libido. Perhaps you are worried about job security, the health of a loved one or even your own health. Continuous worry causes stress, which in turn impacts on your general well-being. Love making is seen as an enjoyable activity; it is natural that during this period of stress, the last thing on your mind is an act of pleasure.
Certain medications can have an effect on your sex drive causing temporary impotence in men and dryness or physical discomfort in females. Some medications to combat depression can affect libido. This can cause further depressive thoughts as it makes the person feel even more worthless and hopeless. It can be a vicious circle.
Even people who are not in a relationship are just as likely to be affected, though it may take them longer to realise if they are not used to a regular sex life. They may slowly realise that they no longer take an interest in the opposite sex or seek to start up a relationship with someone new. They may no longer take care of their appearance as much as before or make an effort to attract someone, not realising that this physiological problem is leading their mental thought process.
For some new mothers, it can be daunting to restart their sex life as their bodies have gone through a change and they may feel less attractive if they are struggling to regain their pre-baby figure. They will inevitably feel tired looking after a young family and are lacking in quality sleep. This can cause problems in their relationship if they do not have an understanding partner or family support who can share the household and babysitting chores.
There is also the fear of reaching middle age, especially for those who lack self-confidence and who have little self-esteem. For someone who was used to attracting the opposite sex with their good looks, they may have a hard time accepting wrinkles, grey hair, going bald, losing muscle tone or a thickening waistline. They are too hard on themselves, not being able to accept that others may find them attractive for their personality and good nature. As their self-esteem and self-image decrease with every passing year, so does their sex drive.
However, all is not lost. Hypnotherapy can address all of the above and help you rediscover your mojo. Hypnosis can help you regain your self-confidence and get you to appreciate yourself for being you. Therapy can reignite your relationship by helping you get to the root problem of what is causing your stress and give you the tools and techniques to address these. If your diminished sex drive is caused by weight gain for example, then hypnosis can be used to help you to successfully get rid of those extra pounds.
Find a therapist who can address all or any of the above. Don't be afraid to ask for testimonials. Life is there to be lived to the full.
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About Biodun Ogunyemi
Biodun Ogunyemi is the founder of Optimind, one of the leading hypnotherapy practices within the UK. He has practiced on Harley Street and is an experienced hypnotherapist, trained to the highest level in Advanced Hypnotherapy and NLP and is the author of over 180 hypnosis products.