The ultimate guide to boosting your body confidence

Body confidence is a journey, not a destination. In a world bombarded with unrealistic beauty standards and constant comparisons, achieving genuine body confidence requires effort, acceptance, and commitment to self-love.


This guide aims to help you navigate this path with practical tips and a balanced perspective. Acknowledging the importance of health at every size, while also emphasising the value of showing up and doing the work.

From birth to death, comments on appearance are a constant part of life. As soon as a baby is born, people make remarks about who they look like. As children grow, their hair, eye colour, and height become frequent topics of conversation. Comments like "such blond hair" or "look at those long eyelashes" are common. Teaching children their appearance is always noticed and discussed. As we grow into adults, these comments persist with phrases like "you look well," "you’ve got such a nice tan," or "have you lost weight?" While these remarks can boost self-esteem, they also set an expectation that appearance is central to our worth. What happens when the comments stop? Does that mean we are less worthy or less attractive? 

Understanding body confidence

Body confidence is the positive perception and appreciation of your body, regardless of its shape, size, or appearance. It's about feeling comfortable in your own skin and embracing your unique physical attributes. This journey involves mental, emotional, and physical aspects, all of which are crucial for fostering a healthy relationship with your body.

Health at every size 

Health at every size promotes the idea that well-being and healthy habits are more important than the number on the scale. It encourages people to focus on intuitive eating, joyful movement, and self-care, rather than pursuing weight loss as the primary goal. The health at every size idea advocates for the acceptance of diverse body shapes and sizes, and challenges the stigmatisation of larger bodies.

While health at every size is a vital part of the body confidence conversation, it's essential to remember the health part. Showing up for yourself and putting in the effort to care for your body is important. This means regular physical activity, nutritious food choices, and addressing any underlying health issues – not to change your body to fit societal standards, but to support your health.

Steps to boost your body confidence

1. Practice self-acceptance

Self-acceptance is the foundation of body confidence. It involves recognising and embracing your body as it is right now. This doesn't mean you can't work towards improving your health or fitness, but it does mean you should do so from a place of love and respect for your body.

Tips for practicing self-acceptance

Positive affirmations: Start your day with positive affirmations that celebrate your body. Statements like "I am strong and capable" or "I appreciate what my body does for me" can shift your mindset.

Mindful reflection: Spend a few minutes each day reflecting on the things you appreciate about your body. Focus on its functionality and the amazing things it allows you to do.

2. Develop a healthy relationship with food

Food is necessary nourishment and fuel for your body, not a source of guilt or stress.

Tips for a healthy relationship with food

Intuitive Eating: Prioritise the time to learn your body's hunger and fullness cues. If this is not something you’re used to doing, it may take time. Some people fear feeling hungry so much they never let it happen. Give yourself the opportunity to see what hunger feels like for you. When you develop this interoceptive skill, you’ll find you can eat when you're hungry and stop when you're satisfied.

Balanced choices: Focus on making balanced food choices that include various nutrients. This doesn't mean restricting or labelling foods as "good" or "bad", but choosing the foods with nutrients your body needs in the moment

When you have a choice of food, take some time to think about what each food will bring to your body. Will it provide you with much-needed fibre? Perhaps you’ll get a top-up of protein? Maybe it’s the vitamins and minerals your body seeks. Some foods are simply hole fillers and will bring none of the above. Try to pick the foods that bring your body the most benefit.

3. Engage in joyful movement

Exercise should be enjoyable and tailored to your preferences and abilities. Joyful movement is about finding physical activities that you love and makes you feel good.

Tips for joyful movement

Explore activities: Try different types of physical activities to find what you enjoy most –whether it's dancing, hiking, swimming, or yoga.

Set realistic goals: Set achievable and realistic fitness goals that focus on how you feel, rather than how you look.

4. Surround yourself with positive influences

The people you surround yourself with can significantly impact your body confidence. Choose to spend time with individuals who uplift and support you.

Tips for positive influences

Supportive relationships: Build relationships with people who celebrate your uniqueness and encourage your self-acceptance journey.

Limit negative media: Be mindful of the media you consume. Follow social media accounts that promote body positivity through health and self-love.

5. Practice self-care

Self-care is an essential part of maintaining body confidence. It involves taking time for activities that nourish your mind, body, and soul.

Tips for practicing self-care

Mindfulness and meditation: Incorporate mindfulness and meditation practices to reduce stress and improve your mental well-being.

Pamper yourself: Treat yourself to activities that make you feel good, such as a warm bath, a massage, or simply relaxing with a good book.

6. Seek professional support

If you find that negative body image significantly impacts your mental health, seeking professional support is beneficial. Therapists, counsellors, and dietitians can provide guidance and strategies to help you develop a healthier relationship with your body.

Acceptance and effort: Finding the balance

Achieving body confidence requires a balance between acceptance and effort. Acceptance involves embracing your body as it is and rejecting societal pressures to conform to unrealistic standards. Effort involves showing up for yourself, making choices that support your health and well-being, and striving to be the best version of yourself – not because you need to change, but because you deserve to feel your best.

One of the most profound realisations on the journey to body confidence is understanding that you will never truly see yourself the way others see you. The reflection in the mirror is a static image, devoid of the vibrancy and emotion that define who you are.

When you speak passionately about your interests, your eyes light up, your smile widens, and your whole demeanour exudes a unique energy that a mirror simply cannot capture.

The way you move, laugh, and express yourself adds layers to your appearance that are invisible in your reflection.

This dynamic, animated version of you is what others experience and appreciate, often seeing beauty and charisma that you might overlook when scrutinising yourself in the mirror. Embracing this concept can help you realise that your true essence and beauty are far richer and more complex than any single image can convey.

It's time to change the conversation. Instead of focusing on appearance, let us strive to compliment qualities that truly matter, like kindness, creativity, or intelligence. By shifting away from appearance-based comments, we can foster a culture that values people for who they are, rather than how they look.

The views expressed in this article are those of the author. All articles published on Hypnotherapy Directory are reviewed by our editorial team.

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Written by Juliet Hollingsworth, MSc
Farnham, Surrey, GU9

Juliet, a hypnotherapist since 2008, with a diploma in Clinical Hypnotherapy & Psychotherapy is an AnxietyUK therapist. In 2018 she was awarded an MSc in Consciousness, Spirituality & Transpersonal Psychology which she uses to complement her therapy work. Find quick fix sessions for Weight Loss, Anxiety, Fear of Flying & Sleep on Juliet's website.

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