Beliefs are contagious and can imprison your potential
This blog points out how a person's natural ability to confidently exhibit positivity, joy, love and harmony with others in their lives is inhibited and affected by external factors generally outside of the individual’s control. The child who is constantly told by his parents as he matures that he is lovable and destined to succeed, is likely to lead a pleasing and rewarding life. As a result, it is likely he will use similar programming to his own children.
However, unfortunately for some it isn’t always this way and a low self-esteem and lack of confidence can really dampen any efforts to be where you want to be. More to the point, it is the thoughts and the beliefs that you tell yourself that render your natural capacity to flourish in life. Consider the fact that no one is born depressed, nor with low confidence; it is something which is formed, moulded overtime.
There is a natural abundance of energy and excitement within us all from a very early age and the confidence to participate in the day. Overtime however, things are perhaps said to us unintentionally. These dampen our spirits and our natural capacities and abilities diminish, along with the detrimental shift in our confidence.
Experiences shape our thinking and it is all governed through our natural senses. It is true that we are born blank slates, only with the vital primitive instincts to maintain our natural responses. As we grew, we were told what we "couldn’t do that" or "shouldn’t do this" and that we would perhaps fail if we did certain things.
Accidentally of course, external events from the outside world can be emotionally interpreted or coded incorrectly within our sub-conscious mind. Indeed, it is the greatest cause of psychic conflicts. In worst cases, some of us still live with a belief that something was our fault and experience unnecessary shame, embarrassment or guilt, but why?
In most cases, children no older than the age of 10 lack the critical factor of the mind. Thus, everything we once heard or experienced is taken literally. These emotionalised feelings become repressed and sometimes the guilt remains at bay. We deduce that perhaps “we are no good”, “I can’t do anything right" and “It’s all my fault”. Depression is sometimes the result of self-hate, where in worse cases anger has been turned inwards and not expelled from an early age.
Consequently the thoughts of, “I am no good for anything” persist and form your belief systems. It becomes a vicious circle. The external events we experience can shape our understandings about who we are and our purpose in life. We only begin to develop our identity in late childhood and this is constructed around the beliefs we hold about ourselves. Thus, in hypnotherapy it is the role of the hypnotherapist to utilise the rational, critical part of the mind to re-examine the existing beliefs you have about yourself.
Hypnotherapy realigns the significant parts of the mind to empower and create positive change for you to feel whole again from within. If low self-esteem or confidence issues are things that affect your daily life, ask yourself, “Why do I treat myself the way I do?” and “why do I think of myself that way?". Tell yourself, “I wouldn’t treat or think of anyone else in the same way, so why me?”.
Hypnotherapy can help you understand how and what caused the shift in your thinking and ultimately your beliefs. Let’s help find the true inner qualities and abilities you possess.
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