Change or no change...

The time for change is today.

On the whole, people don't like change. They get comfortable and set in their ways and see change as something that requires effort. Even when they realise that the change would benefit them in the long-term, they still don't want to start.

Let's look at the person who is in a job they hate. They reluctantly get up every morning and drag themselves into the workplace. They probably spend their whole weekend dreading Monday morning instead of enjoying their time away from the place. At every opportunity they moan about everything they hate about it. Whether it is the hours they work, their boss, their colleagues or the poor pay, they will go on and on about it. Yet, when asked why they do nothing about it and change their situation, they will have loads of excuses as to why they won't. Even when given strategies to either better the situation or alternative job offers they will ignore them and refuse to do anything to rectify the situation.

Fear can play a big part in their decision to remain in their current situation. They may fear they are walking out of the proverbial frying pan into the fire. What if after all that moaning they end up in a worse job and hate it even more? Or perhaps they think they won’t be able to cope with the new structure and different approach to what they have been used to. Or maybe the problem isn't just about the work, maybe they are unhappy with life in general and regardless of their working environment, will continue to feel dissatisfied and unfulfilled.

Then there are the couples who stay in unhappy relationships. Many people remain in a relationship long after the love has gone, when there is no hope of ever rekindling the flames, of getting back that passion no matter how hard they try or want it. They both remain out of habit, of some misguided loyalty, believing that it's better to just put up with it despite their bleak, loveless future.  

In other cases where there is abuse involved, the abused stays in the relationship with the full knowledge the situation is unlikely to change. Abuse in a relationship can take many forms. From the verbal abuse meant to demean and wear the victim down, the abuser manipulates the relationship in such a way, the abused is made to think they are at fault and need to change and improve. Then there is the physical abuse with the victim ultimately blaming themselves and remaining in the situation hoping to change their partner for the better. Even when the abuse gets so bad they may be hospitalised, they cannot make the decision to leave. This may be because they think they cannot afford to separate or simply because they have had their spirit broken and their future seems helpless and futile.

So how can hypnosis help in these situations?  

It can help on many levels. Whilst the hypnotherapist cannot make the decision for any of the situations mentioned above for you, they can help give you strategies to allow you to view your circumstances in a new light. By bypassing your conscious mind and addressing the unconscious mind which can make changes at a deeper and unbiased level, the hypnotherapist can show you that although well intentioned, your current thoughts and behaviours do not serve you well. The behaviour you consciously believe is protecting you is, in fact, damaging you in the long term. The job you despise yet remain in is ultimately causing you unnecessary stress and unhappiness and so are those relationships. 

The therapist will not only work on changing those behaviours sabotaging your happiness but will also address any other challenges that may be associated with the presenting problem. A lack of confidence or low self-esteem may be the reason for remaining in the situation. Fear of failure may be an issue you face and this too can be rectified through hypnosis. Your childhood may hold some of the clues as to why you have little self-worth and hypnotherapy can be very successful in getting to the root cause of this and initiating change, enabling you to grow emotionally and view the challenges through your adult eyes.

If you believe you are procrastinating in your life, feeling unable to move forward to create the life you know you truly deserve then take action today. Your future self will thank you for it.

“One reason people resist change is because they focus on what they have to give up, instead of what they have to gain.” - Rick Godwin.

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Written by Biodun Ogunyemi ANLP,BNLP,SNLP,C.H,Dip.Hyp

Biodun Ogunyemi is the founder of Optimind, one of the leading hypnotherapy practices within the UK. He has practised on Harley Street and is an experienced hypnotherapist, trained to the highest level in advanced hypnotherapy and NLP and is the author of over 180 hypnosis products.… Read more

Written by Biodun Ogunyemi ANLP,BNLP,SNLP,C.H,Dip.Hyp

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