Can hypnosis cure love addiction?

If you are reeling from multiple romantic heartbreaks, constantly drawn towards the wrong person, often horribly lonely and finding yourself unable to stop checking new people to see if they are if wearing a wedding ring, then it may be that you suffer from love addiction.

Love addiction is a uniquely painful and destructive addiction, and just as paralysing as any other addiction. If you have just said an agonising goodbye to the one you thought would last forever, it may be time to put away the hanky for good and re-evaluate.

It is not known what causes love addiction, but if you have it, you just cannot function effectively without a romantic relationship. Life seems grey and hopeless, and everyday life is drained of all joy and sparkle. Normal routines become unbearably tedious. When the relationship ends, and they always do, you are at the mercy of feelings of despair, worthlessness, guilt, anger, constantly ruminating about what went wrong. Friends will reason with you, but deep down you want that relationship back, no matter how toxic it was.

Love addicts get involved with men or women who need to find a victim to hurt, bully and control. Friends might shake their heads and fear your love interest is a manipulative, shallow self-seeker, but in your eyes, that person is compellingly attractive and has the power to make you feel wonderfully happy. That happiness does not last.

Love addiction is a destructive and endless cycle of falling in love, the brief ecstasy of all needs being met, followed quickly by unease, growing insecurities and a gnawing sense that things are not right. Love addicts want to give their all, but if they assert any needs of their own, they will be pushed away because they have chosen someone who can only care about themselves. Love addicts swear 'never again' but like any addiction, there is a craving that can only be satisfied by another engrossing love that, for a time, sweeps you off your feet.

Love addicts fight desperately to get out of this cycle, but it is driven by an overpowering need to feel loved, wanted and secure. Love addiction affects people of all ages, backgrounds and education. Being bright, funny, beautiful, intelligent, creative and even very rich, is no immunity against the disease of love addiction. As a love addict, you can never measure your own worth, which makes you prey to those that others would instinctively reject.

If you really want to end the despair cycle, consider using hypnotherapy. A good hypnotherapist will use a range of visualisations and other techniques to address the addiction head-on. It will identify the subconscious roots of the habit which perpetuate love addiction. Freedom from the self-harming urges means you can develop self-respect and self-worth. With hypnosis, you can begin to love and trust in yourself. When you love yourself, you recognise and attract true, lasting love from another.

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Written by Marian Barry

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Marian Barry is an advanced clinical hypnotherapist practising at the Harley St Hypnotherapy Clinic London and Gt Abington, Cambridge. She has given talks at international conferences around the world specialising in personal change and confidence building. She is a best selling author of many popular works published by Cambridge University Press.

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