Beliefs: Are you living your best life?
Have you ever wondered why your life is the way it is? Do you consider yourself to be living the best life you possibly can? Do you find yourself repeating patterns which seem impossible to break free from? Are you enjoying your life or are there things that hinder you but you are not sure why?
Most of us only think about these things during reflection after a time of crisis. The crisis could be anything - health, money, relationships... something that pulls us out of the everyday situations we find ourselves in and forces us to re-evaluate. However, we don't have to enter a crisis to ask ourselves the above questions. Perhaps take a moment now to reflect on them and listen to what comes up. What is your inner self telling you?
Many people will never question why their life is playing out in a certain way and even if they don't like it, they may still continue to tread the path. However, if the time has come for you to question your life, it's worth considering the beliefs you hold and whether they are limiting or empowering.
Beliefs can be formed at any time but are often formed in childhood at the subconscious level. When we are young we are very susceptible to taking on the world around us. Our brains operate mainly in the theta and alpha state which enables learning, hence the reason children spend much of the time in fantasy land and pick things up very quickly. However, that also means that experiences, whether positive or negative sink in swiftly and deeply. As children we hear and see things from a variety of sources, for example parents, teachers, community leaders, doctors - people that are in authority that 'must know what they are talking about'. We soak up their views, ideas and judgements and give them meaning.
This can be a good thing, for example if your parents praised you often, spoke to you in loving terms and treated you in a loving way then it is likely that your beliefs around family will be positive. However, if you were treated badly; not listened to, dismissed or neglected then the beliefs formed would be very different. If you are constantly told as a child that 'you don't deserve it', 'you're no good' or 'your feelings don't matter', it is likely that the beliefs you form from those situations will play out in certain patterns throughout your life. You may find yourself on a roller-coaster of destructive relationships or using maladaptive coping strategies. Or perhaps you find yourself always shrinking into the background and never fulfilling your dreams, instead watching other people as they do.
If you are unsure whether you have limiting beliefs in your life, take the time to honestly analyse the patterns that you find yourself living and recognise the areas of your life where you hold negative emotions. What areas of your life have you tried to improve but find it never really works - for example do you have issues with weight that you can't seem to ever get control of? Do you find yourself in a constant cycle of debilitating relationships? Perhaps it's much less dramatic but you know you have issues with confidence that is a prevailing theme in your life, or perhaps you find you always need approval from others? As you discover the patterns that you re-play it will start to give you an idea of what your limiting beliefs might be.
It is important to remember that just because we believe something, it doesn't mean it is true! We tell ourselves it is true and as humans we like to prove ourselves right. The outcomes in our life reflect our beliefs as we find behaviour that matches and provides the outcomes we associate with them.
To change your life and live the best life possible, limiting beliefs need to be addressed because they shape every action that you take and every decision that you make. They may prevent you from doing what you want to through fear or may even prevent you from seeing opportunities at all. The truth is that unaddressed limiting beliefs can steal your happiness and vigour for life and prevent you from reaching your potential.
There are many ways to deal with limiting beliefs and a combination of hypnotherapy, EFT and NLP can help you make positive changes. If you would like to know more about how to address your limiting beliefs and start living your best life, please contact me.
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