Become your own cheerleader

Our own confidence is a measure of how we trust our own abilities and qualities. If you have a healthy level of self-worth and confidence, you find that you can cope easier with life's challenges and can accept that you are worth happiness and make choices that are more likely to have positive outcomes for you.

Let's start by looking at what can pull your confidence down, a few examples are:

  • adverse childhood experiences
  • critical self talk
  • avoiding challenging situations
  • taking to heart other people put down comments

Living with low self-esteem and confidence can harm your mental health, leading to problems like depression and anxiety, so it can bring value to your life in many areas by seeking out ways to increase your self-image and confidence.

Signs of low self-confidence

Here are some examples of how low confidence can impact your life:

  • you may withdraw from social activities
  • inability to accept compliments
  • unable to show fairness to yourself
  • focus on the negative
  • worry about what you imagine others think
  • reluctance to take on challenges
  • unable to trust your own opinions
  • expect little out of life

There are several things you can do at home and on your own to increase your confidence and doing this can leave you feeling empowered and this in return will again further increase your confidence. Try some of the following:

  • Build awareness of your self-talk and stop. Listen to what is being said and rephrase it into a positive message.
  • Remember the words being said are just messages that are not real and imagine throwing them away and laughing at them.
  • Relax your shoulders, jaw and unclench your teeth, unfold arms and open fists.
  • Focus on what you can do. Stop putting yourself down.
  • Look after your own needs and recognise and compliment your self.
  • Push your self into situations that you would normally avoid. Notice how nothing is as bad in reality as you imagine.
  • Practice self-love and compassion, place your hand on your heart and say the things you need to hear, such as I love you, I can do this. Everything is going to be okay. All the things that you would say to a good friend. 
  • Tell yourself that you are excited.

Confidence practise

Here is an exercise that you can practice and the more you do this the stronger the benefits are.

  • Stand up and take a deep breath and breathe out - repeat a few times.
  • Imagine a circle on the floor, that you can stand in, now think about how you want to feel, look and stand. Be that person bursting with confidence, hear your voice, be in that moment.
  • Now step in your imaginary circle - be your own cheerleader bursting with confidence.
  • Step out the circle and let that feeling fade away.
  • Now repeat the process three times, each time you step in that circle you feel like you are bursting with confidence, cheering yourself on, feeling exactly like you wish to be.
  • Every time you step out the circle allowing it just to fade away.

You can take this circle everywhere with you, anytime anywhere, when you need more confidence just step in your circle. No one will know what you are doing and the more you practice this the stronger you will feel.

Self-confident people believe in themselves and their abilities to accomplish their goals. When you have confidence you will find you will focus on success, you will learn from your mistakes rather than beat yourself up. Treat yourself with love, kindness, and compassion and you will find that you start noticing the things that you do well, rather than being your critic.

Cheer your self on to success!

If you believe you would like a helping hand to increase your confidence and self-image then hypnotherapy can offer a number of solutions and options for you.

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Written by Susan Watson

Susan Watson is a senior qualified hypnotherapy practitioner and supervisor (GHSC), champion for CNHC. MHFA and ASIST trained.
Member of the College of Medicine and SHF. Susan specialises in working with anxiety based conditions and is an Anxiety UK approved therapist as well as training her own courses in supporting clients with anxiety.… Read more

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