Jill Tonks MNCH, HPD, NLP Master Prac, Supervisor
I am fully trained and insured as a Cognitive Hypnotherapist and I can help you take control of addictions, manage anxiety, depression or OCD effectively to achieve lasting change in a way that really works for you.
Here's a testimonial from a client:
“When I started my treatment with Jill I had an extensive list of problems and issues that needed resolving. I believed I was to blame for causing all of these problems. . The treatment with Jill made me realise that these problems stemmed from numerous external factors …I gradually made changes that removed or rectified all of these influences and emerged a stronger person who had regained their self respect. My life is now changing on many levels. I am a happier person, and this has had a positive impact on my entire family.” Carla
Here are the questions people usually ask:
What is hypnosis?
Everyone goes in and out of natural hypnotic trances every day, without perhaps knowing it. Have you ever been so absorbed in a book or film that the hours seemed to fly by? Have you ever driven your car and arrived at your destination without even thinking about it? However, if a danger occurred you would be alert and respond to it. You can still be in control when you need to be. All these are examples of everyday trances we all experience. Hypnosis is no different; it is a natural state of awareness where you will not do or say anything that you do not want to.
Why is the unconscious mind important?
90% of your behaviour happens without you having to think about it, driven by your unconscious mind rather than your conscious mind. We have a very resourceful mind that allows us to learn something consciously, and then that learning runs as a programme in the unconscious mind. We are designed to habituate and most of the time that works for us. When we have a negative behavior pattern it can run automatically, and so even though we consciously want to change, unconsciously the programme continues to run itself, and so the pattern happens and you might find yourself saying ‘why am I doing this to myself?’ You aren’t: the unconsciousis doing the job it was meant to do. You can talk about the issue you have, but talking alone does not resolve it. The key to lasting change resides at an unconscious level and this is why hypnotherapy is so effective.
Will I lose control in any way?
No, you remain in control at all times. A hypnotherapist does not have any control over you. In fact, the state of hypnosis is one of heightened awareness where it is possible for your mind to be aware of many more things than what is possible in the conscious state.
Can anyone be hypnotised?
Yes, anyone can be hypnotised, provided that he/she wants to be. No one can be hypnotised against his/her will.
Do I have to go over the past?
“Sometimes the best thing about the past is that it’s over,” according to Richard Bandler, co-founder of NLP. You can’t change the past, but you can change the effect that it’s having on the present. It might surprise you to know that I can work with you on issues from the past without discussing the content, or we can just focus on the present and the future.
What is Cognitive Hypnotherapy and what’s different about it?
Hypnotherapy enables you to deal with the things in your life you want to change by working at the unconscious level leading to lasting change. It is not traditional hypnotherapy (or clinical hypnotherapy). Clinical hypnosis & hypnotherapy is a generic term use for hypnosis for therapeutic purposes. These methods tend to be focused on the problem, so all clients with the same issue tend to be treated in the same way.
Instead, as a Cognitive Hypnotherapist, my approach is based on modern neuroscience and positive psychology and works from a modern understanding of the mind-body connection. I also use techniques from a range of psychological and therapeutic disciplines, including NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming), New and Classic Code, Positive Psychology and EMI (Eye Movement Integration) and Time Line Reprocessing. This means that I have a wide range or tools and techniques to draw on to help you achieve your goals.
I approach each person as an individual. Everyone is unique and so is their experience of their problem. I will identify your unique patterns of thoughts, emotions and behaviours relevant to your issue and create a programme just for you to guide you towards the solution that you want. Everybody’s therapy programme will be different and tailored to your individual needs.
I work in partnership with you. I believe that you already have everything you need to get you to where you want to get to. My task is to support you to rediscover this resource to enable you to achieve your goals and to get back the control you want in your life. You’ll learn tools, techniques and strategies to use for yourself. These positive effects continue to multiply between sessions, and long after the therapy has finished. It is a creative and productive process that can make a difference surprisingly quickly, providing value for money. Cognitive Hypnotherapy is a solution-focused brief therapy, and so it does not go on for many months or even years as some do. Many issues can be resolved in a relatively small number of sessions.
Most therapy happens between sessions. I will ask you to undertake a wide range of tasks between sessions, as I believe that real change happens in your life, not in my consulting room. This makes a significant difference to the change process.
I offer a free, no obligation, consultation for anyone using the Hypnotherapy Directory so we can discuss how I can help you. I look forward to hearing from you.
Call me to discuss how you can make dramatic changes in your life. Change Isn't always easy but it's always possible however big the challenge is you are facing.
Training, qualifications & experience
Evidence Based Practice
Over the last few years a group of Quest Trained Cognitive Hypnotherapists and their clients have taken part in a research project.
As a result in the September 2015 issue of the Mental Health Review Journal, a peer-reviewed article comparing Quest Cognitive Hypnotherapy with national results for the Improving Access to Psychological Therapies (IAPT) programme suggested that….‘QCH may offer a brief effective treatment for clients with clinically significant levels of anxiety and/or depression, widening client choice’. This is a wonderful and unique achievement demonstrating the robustness of QCH as a therapy model. In an average of six sessions, 71% reported themselves recovered, compared to 42% of people using other IAPT therapies. Quest is committed to demonstrating effectiveness, one client at a time, and in doing so we believe we are setting the standard in transparency. This article also highlights the little known fact that dropout from treatment in statutory NHS services is so high that it’s hard to really have any confidence in the outcome of statutory treatment. QCH is positioned to offer a real alternative and we are working hard to bring this to the attention of both the public and the commissioners of services.
A pilot investigation of Quest Institute Cognitive Hypnotherapy services using Improving Access to Psychological Therapies as the benchmark
William Peter Andrews , Andrew Alexander Parsons , Heather Rawle , Julie Gibbs. Mental Health Review Journal 2015 20:3 , 199-210
I qualified as a Quest Cognitive Hypnotherapist in 2007. I am a Master Practitioner in NLP. I am a senior member of the National Council for Hypnotherapy (NCH), an accredited supervisor and the National Training Officer for the NCH and I am a member of the Executive Committee.
I work as a consultant for Macmillan currently working as a master trainer on the rollout of their cancer survivors' programme. I am also a member of the UK Penn Resilience Programme team http://www.howtothrive.org/ which runs teacher training for a schools based programme on resilience. I have recently redesigned the resilience and wellbeing training programmes for the Samaritans.
I worked as a probation officer for many years and as the South East Regional Training manager for the National Probation Service.
Accredited register membership
Areas of hypnotherapy I deal with
- Addictions *
- Alcohol abuse *
- Anger management
- Anxiety *
- Depression *
- Drug abuse *
- Eating disorders *
- Exam stress
- Food addiction *
- Gambling addiction *
- Insomnia *
- Low self-confidence *
- Low self-esteem
- Obsessions and compulsions *
- Pain management *
- Phobias *
- Post-traumatic stress disorder *
- Public speaking
- Quit smoking
- Sex addiction *
- Sleep disorders *
- Stress *
- Weight loss
* If you have been diagnosed or suspect you may have one of the medical conditions starred above, you should consult your GP for advice, diagnosis and treatment and always inform your health professional before starting any alternative or additional therapies or treatments.
Other areas of hypnotherapy I deal with
I am a Cancer Coach and I help people like you find a way forward in your life after a cancer diagnosis and treatment.
We all take a long life for granted and a cancer diagnosis sends the mind into a tailspin of strong negative emotions where the past can be full of guilt and regrets and the future full of fear and anxiety. The map of your life as you know it is erased and it can seem like there is no turning back and no clear way forward.
At the same time, a cancer diagnosis can help you to profoundly reconnect with yourself and those you love in ways you never thought possible as you begin to appreciate immediately what is important to you at a deeper emotional level.
As a Cancer Coach, I will work with you intensively over a period of time so that you get all the support you need to manage the physical, mental and emotional roller coaster in the best way you can. This includes intensive one to one sessions, weekly contact and bespoke MP3 recordings that enable you to find the best way through the challenges you are facing now and into the future.
There is no one size fits all approach to Cancer Coaching and only you know what’s best for you. My job is to help you find what you need to shape the present, the past and the future in a way that’s right for you.
If you think my Cancer Coaching programme could make a difference to you, please get in touch. I offer a free, initial consultation with no obligation to continue so we can both decide if I am the best person to help you.
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I offer packages of 2 to 6 months depending on what's right for you. Get in touch and we can discuss the best approach for you.
I’ve been coached and mentored by Jill for over 3 years. In my time in this industry, I have had the pleasure to connect with some outstanding practitioners of one to one development of which Jill is most certainly leading. She has a unique style of unearthing the most prevalent of personal and professional challenges using nothing but an artful string of questions which not only drives to the core of a problem, but offers insight into its broader impact before facilitating active solutions.
I’ve made a number of attempts to model Jill’s approach but found it challenging to emulate her innate adaptability which appears to come so easily in our sessions. The technical agility she applies is set against the backdrop of a warm and engaging rapport building style which creates the conditions for an open and productive conversation. The value I have taken from our work together has and remains to be immeasurably substantive in terms of my own development and the work that I have produced for my clients.”
Learning and Development Specialist
Avon Cosmetics UK
“My past is no longer having a negative impact on my life; I felt like a child that needed constant reassurance, now I’m all grown up. I am a happier, less anxious, content person with a bright future. Thank you.” Amy
“My sessions had a profound effect on my state of mind, and brought me out of, what I realise now, was quite a depressed state. I have now a far more positive outlook. Many thanks.” Hilary
“The hypnotherapy was wonderful. It was an eye opener for a series of related issues throughout my life that enabled me to see how it shaped my life and what I needed to do about it. The “coaching” part was enormously helpful as well, and sped up my realization of how urgent things needed to change.” John
“Thank you for being so in-tune with me during our work together. You have helped me find confidence that I was not wholly convinced I had!” Rebecca
“I think that I’m mad to have given my resignation in the middle of a credit crunch, but I was very unhappy, and had strong moral issues with my company. Something in me tells me it’s the right decision, and I’m going to be OK. It’s thanks to you that I had the courage to take the next step.” Mandy
“I found hypnotherapy a very effective way to give up smoking. It gave me the belief I could actually do it. I wish I had taken the step years ago.” John
“I feel completely different & can deal with a spider in the same room as me which I could never have done before. Our move to Australia was short lived however the spiders in Oz were sizable & they just didn’t bother me. Since coming back we have had quite large ones in the house which I have been very happy to deal with.” Claire G
Type of session
Day and some evenings