When life flings mud in your eye
Anxiety, depression and anger do not help!
Change is inevitable in life, how we respond to it can affect our stress levels, if we are resistant and inflexible in our attitudes and behaviour then this can lead to us feeling out of control or as if we are just not coping as well as we would like to be.
People can react to change in different ways, we may know a person who digs in their heels and becomes more stubborn to see things from a different perspective, this can be frustrating or possibly even destructive in relationships, particularly if you have two people who like to have things their own way. When we add to this cocktail our emotions of anger, anxiety or fear we may lose hope that things will ever improve.
Or maybe a person who constantly puts others needs or wants in front of their own, maybe fearful of a reaction or through lack of self-worth. Throughout life we learn and adapt our attitudes and behaviours to cope with our environment, sometimes these coping strategies may not be entirely healthy for our personal growth and happiness.
When life flings mud in your eye and change happens, it is far healthier to be able to respond with clear vision, if we are responding from the thinking part of our brain, rather than the fearful part.
Decisions based on fear of “What if’s” increase our anxiety and cloud our judgement.
The problem is that change, either positive or negative, can rock the security guard of your brain (The Amygdala) the flight/fight/freeze system, and when this happens we become focussed on wanting to feel safe again, falling back into old patterns of behaviour, even though we consciously know they are not in our best interests.
Learning to be more adaptable and resilient to change is a process to enable ourselves to take back control and take life in our stride again. This process can be made easier with support from a therapist. Solution focused hypnotherapy helps you to maintain your focus on achieving the best possible result for you.
An experienced colleague of mine once told me that “Rigid structures break.” When we are more flexible in our thinking and behaviour life feels much happier, less stressful and we learn to embrace change, viewing problems as challenges that we know we are more than capable of overcoming in a calm and considered way.
About the author
I have a passion for the benefits of solution focused hypnotherapy. I believe in this modern approach, based upon the latest research, along with the belief that we all have a drive towards reaching our potential. You can be assured of a warm and friendly welcome, my aim is to put you at ease and help you move towards your desired outcome.
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Biodun Ogunyemi ANLP,BNLP,SNLP,C.H,Dip.HypApril 18th, 2018