Ten tips for achieving your goals
Where are you on this grand journey of life? Are you happy, contented and at peace? Or is there something you are struggling with? Something you want to change? Do you want more or even just a little confidence, peace and happiness? Or maybe you want to lose weight, kick a bad habit or resolve a relationship issue? Whatever it is you want to gain, lose, acquire or cultivate, this article is for you - it is your essential travel guide to success. Use it as a road map for your journey of change and transformation.
1) Your destination: Get clear about what you want and where you want to be
It sounds obvious, but working out where you want to be is absolutely key to a successful journey. It’s vital that you describe your destination in super-positive language, as doing this sets your brain’s satnav. The clearer, brighter, sharper and more refined your destination is, the easier you make it for your brain to support you in your journey. Most people when trying to think about what they want, routinely say what they don’t want “I don’t want to be overweight, addicted, anxious, depressed, indecisive…” and so on. The danger with this is that it wakes up your brain to unwanted destinations and causes confusion! What would happen if you treated your car’s satnav this way – typing in the destinations you didn’t want? Where would you end up?
2) Practise time travel and preview your future
Fire up your navigation system by time travelling. Imagine having already arrived at your destination. Set aside some time to close your eyes and imagine being in that place – notice the sights, the sounds, the feelings, the smells and even the taste of being there. Think you can’t do this? If you are like most people, then you’re already excellent at time travelling to a negative version of the future – it’s called worrying and being anxious!
3) Navigational equipment: Be aware of your brain’s potential
Did you know that you carry with you 24-7 the most complex and creative piece of equipment in the known universe? Your brain is highly flexible and designed to support change, growth and development – of skills, thinking, feeling and behaving – at any age. The technical term for this is neuroplasticity. It really is possible to teach the metaphorical old dog new tricks, but you need to know how to do it. Make sure your journey of change includes fun, excitement and joy so your brain is switched on for learning and change. To achieve this, recruit an experienced and effective travel guide.
4) Seek out a travel guide
Having an experienced, wise, skilled and compassionate guide (i.e. a hypnotherapist) will make all the difference to whether or not you stay on track and arrive at your destination. Choose someone you feel comfortable with and who has the necessary skills and experience to help you. A therapist will help you work out where you want to be; encourage you; spot the pitfalls before you do; work with your brain and help you wake up your imagination, which is the engine room of change.
5) The first step: Decide what it is and start walking!
So you’ve identified and previewed the destination, you’ve got your travel guide and navigational equipment on board. The next part is over to you - taking that first small, but significant step on the journey. This is where you show the world you are taking responsibility for your life, your actions, your destination.
6) The journey: Break it down into smaller parts
Does the journey seem daunting, long, arduous, even impossible? The solution is simple – remembering that each journey progresses just one step at a time. What if you were to break the journey down into smaller chunks – how would that be? Have you noticed that you’ve already achieved so much in your life using this strategy? Think of where you are in your life now – and the chances are there were many small steps that led you to this place.
7) Identify the pitfalls, blocks and barriers
Knowing yourself better than anyone else, name those areas where you know you may trip yourself up. Once you’ve revealed these, you and your guide can work on a plan to keep you on track. Sounds too simple? Take it for a test drive and see!
8) Travel fatigue: Recognise your inner battles are part history and part habit
There will be times when the journey will be tough going. This is where your therapist will be invaluable. Remember that the things you struggle with probably have their roots way back in your younger years, when you experienced something difficult, perplexing and undeserved. Your hypnotherapist can help you deal with these root causes. The other part of your struggle will be with unhelpful patterns or habits of behaviour that you have unwittingly cultivated over the years. A great practitioner will be able to help you become more aware of these patterns and help you create new ones.
9) Be your own best travel companion
The best therapists will teach you how to be your own best guide. They will pass on their knowledge to ensure you are well-equipped for future journeys. Find someone who will show you how to coach, encourage, inspire and love yourself.
10) Enjoy the journey!
Sometimes arrival at the destination can have an element of disappointment. Consider the weight-loss destination – for months you’ve had the journey, the work, the struggles and the joy of getting healthier and changing your relationship with food - and you finally achieve your goal. But what happens next? You discover a gap in your life that was occupied by the journey and there’s a chance you’ll go backwards. To ensure you don’t fall into this trap, it’s essential that you allow yourself to stop and savour each day of your life. And when you reach your destination, recognise your achievement and have another journey of exploration, learning and fun already planned or underway!
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About Michelle McKail
Michelle is a clinical hypnotherapist and life coach, who transformed her own emotional and physical well-being, through a hypnotherapy, NLP and coaching based programme. Based in Rickmansworth, Michelle delights in helping her clients re-discover their power and creativity to resolve whatever is getting in the way of them living great lives.