The man under the bed – your childhood
Whether we like it or not most of our character and personality is there by an early age. What is striking is how many clients that develop anxieties as an adult claim that their childhood was OK – they didn’t suffer any real trauma and it was relatively happy.
This article will not talk about major or extreme trauma in childhood such as major abuse. That is a specialised area.
Hypnotherapy does not need to rake up the past in order to find solutions for the client. Solution focussed hypnotherapy only needs to deal with the behaviour and give the client a more successful model to follow. Usually the solutions come from the imagination of the client.
However, some of the people who have had relatively “normal” childhoods may encounter behaviour in adult life that could be linked to their childhood. Helping them feel secure and regressing them to childhood can often add a new perspective to events that have almost been forgotten yet subconsciously the lesson was learned and has stayed in the subconscious.
This can be seen very clearly with phobias. If your mother, father, brother or sister was scared of something then it is possible for you to develop a phobia although you did not have the original fear response – you inherited it from another.
There can be pivotal events that changed the way you felt about yourself. An extreme negative reference experience can colour your judgement of everything going forward. For example; a child ridiculed in front of her peers may carry some of this feeling of fear of ridicule into adulthood. This might only show itself on rare occasions such as in meetings or presentations. Feeling unable to chair meetings or present could hold back your potential to progress in your career.
As a child many of us were afraid of the man in the cupboard or under the bed. At a subconscious level, for some of us at least he is still there. He may have changed and is now our superiors, a disgruntled customer or someone/something else.
Sometimes the lessons learned in childhood do not manifest until we become parents ourselves. We may find ourselves automatically behaving with our own children like our parents did with us. Sometimes we are so shocked by this knee jerk behaviour that we consciously fight to behave in a completely different manner. My parent’s generation were overly critical. My generation tend to over cosset their children. Either extreme is a distortion and not the best way to bring up balanced children?
Sometimes as children we take the lessons learned really to heart. Revisiting those events and putting them into a less traumatic and more meaningful context through hypnotherapy can help you move on and become more relaxed, less anxious, less stressed, calmer and more assertive.
Often our subconscious knows what the issue is. Working with a hypnotherapist can help clarify what thoughts lie behind the stressors of daily life.
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About Jeff Cassapi
I am passionate about helping people achieve their own lasting change. I used to be shy and became confident. I didn't believe I would ever run my own business and now I am running a successful hypnotherapy practice. Your potential is limited by your limitless imagination.
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