The importance of being important
As children we learn to see the world in a certain way and depending on what our life is like, the beliefs we form in early years may remain with us into adult life. I often see individuals who have very fixed ideas of what they can and can’t do or what type of person they are or are not. These beliefs determine how they live their lives. Many individuals come to hypnotherapy sessions with very poor esteem. Usually they come with some other problem or symptom that they want to change, but their low self worth is the underlying issue that needs attention. A common thread in such individuals is a need for external validation; their view of themselves, their work or their achievements being dependent on the opinion of others. Does this sound familiar?
This way of being has obvious pitfalls and if you have depended on other’s approval to feel good about yourself, you will probably have suffered the emotional lows that result from relying on other people’s opinion. By operating from a place of need, we can appear needy, fragile or moody. As adults we need to let go of old outdated ideas that we have formed about ourselves so that we can move forward and have a more fulfilling life.
Learning to think differently isn’t something that most people can just decide to do and then carry through alone. Making fundamental changes of this nature isn’t difficult, but it is achieved most easily by working with a therapist. Hypnotherapy works at the subconscious level, so underlying limited beliefs can be challenged and addressed with the help of a qualified therapist. By taking this step you can look forward to a life free from the need for external approval. You can learn to like and accept yourself and take personal responsibility for your emotional state. That sounds pretty good doesn’t it?
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About Lorraine Mcreight
Lorraine McReight is an award-winning hypnotherapist with a therapy and training centre in Wimbledon, SW London. She is the principal of The London Hypnotherapy Academy and is the editor of the professional journal, Hypnoversity. She is also the development director of the NCH (National Council for Hypnotherapy).