So You've Won the Gold Medal, But What Happens Next?
Many of us regard it as important to set goals that on occasion motivate us to dig deep. Losing weight, trying for an important promotion at work, learning a new skill; goals remove us from our safe, familiar comfort zone, provide us with some stress, encourage us to stretch ourselves and think outside the box. But what happens next, when we've succeeded in reaching our goals?
Many people find a real sense of purpose in maintaining the energy, determination and focus to stay on track to achieve something special. Working with the levels of energy and inspiration required to do well is, for many people where the satisfaction lies.
But once the goal has been reached, it can be followed by a period of anti-climax, even depression as the realisation that the challenge is over and there is nothing left to work towards sinks in.
So when you've won the gold medal, what happens next?
- Athletes set their focus on a major competition, like the Olympic Games, never allowing their mind to deviate away from that goal and consider what they will do once the competition or their career is over.
An athlete devotes his or her whole life to working with their coach, nutritionist,hypnotherapist, masseur, often sharing training sessions with other athletes in order to achieve their peak fitness on schedule. Maintaining a positive focus, being able to visualise their goals is an important part of their training, with some athletes utilising the skills of a hypnotherapist to achieve these aims.
The intense focus of their working relationships, strong sense of camaraderie and regimented routine can leave a huge gap when eventually their career is over. After the medals have been won and this stage of their career is at an end there can be a sense of emptiness, of grief, a lack of purpose. Hypnotherapy can help in establishing new goals, a new sense of direction, a different and positive perspective for the future.
This is often the time to focus on their many sports-related skills that can be developed; coaching, mentoring, using the opportunity to support up and coming young athletes; becoming a motivational speaker or writer, utilising their extensive knowledge of sport to become a commentator or media pundit.
- Parents set their gold standard as raising healthy, happy children, capable of living successful independent lives. But many parents find that when their children start school, college, university or move away there's nothing in their lives to fill the child-shaped hole that's left behind.
They've raised confident, independent children but have neglected to nurture themselves. Hypnotherapy can help to support a better balance, deal with any negative emotions like guilt, frustration, resentment. Many parents are so busy with the diverse demands on their time that they often forget about maintaining healthy relationships with their partners, enjoying friends, cultivating fulfilling interests.
Taking care of themselves helps to manage stress, cope better with the challenges that come their way, gain more satisfaction and enjoyment from life. Hypnotherapy can help with those inner conflicts and so become calmer, more appropriately assertive.
Look forward to a child free future by developing interests away from children and domesticity. Cultivate positive relationships and activities. Invest energy and enthusiasm into work; even part-time or voluntary work often brings enormous satisfaction and can help reinforce personal confidence and self-worth.
- Retirement can be a difficult time for some people, especially people who've had successful fulfilling careers where they were highly regarded, held in high esteem. For these people retirement can bring an identity crisis; they've worked their whole lives to achieve success and a good reputation and now that time is over. It can be a traumatic time, having to readjust to the next stage of their lives. Hypnotherapy can provide valuable support at this time, helping to readjust the balance and focus on what will bring happiness and satisfaction at this new, unfamiliar time of life.
The fact is, many retired people lead absorbing lives; they travel extensively, taking as long as they want, study without the need for exams, cultivate interests they never had time to pursue. What happens next can be fun, exciting, adventurous. Hypnotherapy can help to improve perspective, to look at this time as a wonderful new opportunity. Self-hypnosis, positive affirmations, visualisation techniques can all help in elevating their mood.
Sometimes we may need to be focussed and single-minded in pursuit of an important goal. Goals introduce energy, motivation, enthusiasm, purpose into our lives. But achieving gold whilst maintaining a balanced approach, not becoming too preoccupied on a single area, requires enjoying each success but at the same time remembering to sustain other areas of our lives as well.
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Biodun Ogunyemi ANLP,BNLP,SNLP,C.H,Dip.HypApril 17th, 2018