Coping with Christmas
Whilst the whole world seems to be looking forward to Christmas, many of us actually feel anxious, and stressed at the thought, even wishing that the whole thing would just go away.
There are many reasons for this: worry about the excesses of food and drink, leading to unwanted weight gain or loss of control; feelings of loss, bereavement or loneliness; feeling pushed into family or social events we’d rather avoid; time hanging on our hands without our normal routines.
It may also remind us that another year has passed and those changes we promised we’d put into action still haven’t been achieved.
If this sounds like you, here are some ideas to help.
With short daylight hours, it’s easy for a whole day to pass without getting outside. We need sunlight and fresh air to keep our spirits up, especially if we suffer from SAD (seasonal affective disorder). This will also help counteract the “cabin fever” effect.
Keep up with activities you enjoy
Sometimes we allow the rest of our life to go into suspended animation and forget to continue with those everyday things that we actually enjoy. Keep going with things that absorb you and make you feel happy.
Build in some “me” time
This links with the point above. Make sure you have time to yourself if Christmas is a very social time for you. No-one can keep up the sociability 24/7 so take some time-outs when you need to. Having down-time helps recharge our batteries so we can enjoy the up times more.
This doesn’t mean having to go to the gym or run a half marathon! Exercise releases endorphins which help us to feel happier. Go for a walk, a swim, dance, or whatever form of exercise you enjoy.
Manage your expectations
Expecting that everything will be perfect is bound to lead to disappointment. Months of Christmas hype can lead us to expect too much so It helps to keep things realistic. Allow others to muck in and help where possible so it’s a joint venture.
Take opportunities to rest
Life can be busy so holiday time can be a chance to catch up on a bit of R and R. having said that, Christmas can be a demanding time, so remember to use your assertiveness skills on occasions to say no and pace yourself.
Structure some activities with people you want to spend time with
Be it with family, friends, arranging a few structured activities will prevent the great slob out in front of the TV.
Be kind to yourself
This will be different for each of us. It might mean letting yourself indulge for a day or two, letting go of guilt and accepting you can only do so much, or asking for support. If you find yourself in a situation you don’t want to be in, keep a perspective - all things pass and change.
Find some meaning for yourself
Meaning comes in all shapes and forms – religious and secular. It might be a time for church, family, rest, a couple of days off, space to catch up with tasks, or simply another Thursday and Friday.
Organise some support for yourself in advance
Christmas is still several weeks away and so there's still time to put in place some support. Think about small things which will make it better for you and what steps you can take to put some of those in place.
If you’re still struggling, consider professional support such as hypnotherapy, which can help you to achieve positive and lasting life changes.
Wishing you all a happier Christmas.
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About Michele Lazarus
Michele Lazarus is a solution focused, clinical hypnotherapist working in Gloucestershire with practices in Stroud and Cirencester. She is also a trained counsellor and has worked with people for over 30 years. Michele is passionate about helping people to get the very best out of their lives.