Three steps to positive change
Are you serious about making changes in your life, or are just talking about it? Are you "walking the walk" or just "talking the talk"?
As individuals I believe everyone is looking to make changes in their lives, some small and some larger. You could be looking to rid yourself of an addiction such as overeating, smoking or drinking. Your changes may be to stop worrying so much; to live a more relaxed life and deal with challenges in a much more positive and empowering way. You may want improve a sporting skill or get better at your job.
So what is holding you back from making the changes you want to make your life more fulfilling? The actual list could be large and varied, with excuses including:
- No time.
- Not qualified.
- Too many commitments.
- Lacking experience.
- Lacking confidence.
- I have tried before and failed.
- I lack motivation.
- It’s too much effort.
Now you must define what you really want to achieve, the one thing that is so important that nothing else matters. Once you have your goal or outcome to be achieved, you are half way there. For the other half you must following these three steps. Don’t make the commitment to change until you are ready.
1. Realise only you can make that change.
2. Realise the change must be a must.
3. Realise the change must be achieved now.
Realise only you can make that change!
You must realise that no one can force change onto you. You can allow others to influence you, but it is entirely down to you, your spouse cannot, your doctor cannot, and your friends cannot. It has to be entirely your choice.
Realise the change must be a must!
You must realise nothing happens when you say you “should” change. Expressions such as “think about it”, “in an ideal world” or “I would if I could” just don’t cut the mustard. One way of fulfilling this requirement is to make the old behaviour as distressing and uncomfortable as possible, and the new behaviour as wonderful and beneficial as possible. Our psychological and biological imperative moves us from pain to pleasure at any given moment. So increase the pain of persisting with the unhelpful behaviour and at the same time, increase the pleasure expected from the positive outcome of the new action.
Realise the change must be achieved now!
The third requirement to affect change, is the change must be now. Not tomorrow, not next week, not when you get back from the holidays and not after Christmas, the time is now. The only moment you can affect is in this moment, now. Urgency is essential, hast is the imperative.
In conclusion, the requirements to change are:
I must change, and I must change now.
Hypnosis can help, it is much easier to achieve when consulting a trained Hypnotherapist. Decide what you want, make that commitment and live the life you deserve, now.
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About Steve Thomas
I am a qualified Clinical Hypnotherapist and Hypno NLP practitioner.
I am a registered practitioner on the General Hypnotherapy Register and a fully accredited practitioner with the General Hypnotherapy Standards Council. I also hold a fully accredited Diploma from the Hampshire School of Hypnotherapy.