Whether you find yourself in the queue at the supermarket behind somebody that hasn’t got a kind word to say about the customer service assistant, or you’re with ‘that friend’ that’s hard to please, it’s very difficult to avoid at least a small amount of negativity.
So we wanted to explore a few tips that can help you combat the negativity.
1. Don’t take it personally
If you are in contact with someone who has elements of a toxic personality, just remember that it doesn’t matter what that person thinks of you. If they think negatively of you, remind yourself of this. Just try to be the bigger person and let it, and them, go.
2. Stay calm and remove yourself
If you avoid lowering yourself to their level, you will find it much easier to rise above other people’s negativity. Try changing the conversation topic or daydreaming for a minute or two to manage the situation. This way, the moment will pass and you will be able to get on with your day.
3. Simply breathe – count to 10 or even 20
Taking long, deep breaths is a great way to calm anxiety – and it’s proven to work. Whilst focusing on your breathing, count to 10, or even 20, to remove the negativity from your thoughts.
We know you can’t quickly dash out of the room for a run after a stressful meeting, but exercising at the beginning or at the end of the day will clear your head and make you feel better about yourself.
5. Fight it
Not literally, but if you’re feeling ready, speak up and try to repel the negativity with your positive outlook and words. Keep a steady head and be prepared to defend your points, or otherwise you will end up stooping to their level without realising.
6. Avoid holding grudges
This isn’t good for you. It’ll take you to a place that’s hard to come back from. Although it can be difficult not to hold a grudge, avoid it at all costs.