Stress, what's the answer?
16th June, 20150 Comments
Written by: Stella Rodgers CMIR DCHAc ~ HPD MNCH
Question - "What's bothering you?" Answer - "I don't know." Conclusion - It must be stress.
Stress in biological terms is defined as the bodies reaction to a challenge, a chemical reaction of the nervous system which can trigger the 'flight, fight, feint' mechanism. Short term stress can be used to galvanise us into creativity. Actors use it a lot.
However too much of that particular chemical in the bodies system will act as a corrosive. Too much of any negative emotion will do this, the most common one is worry. Think stomach ulcers here. But when we can't see where stress is coming from, (we don't know what's bothering us) there might be a stress which is not so obvious, tending to sneak up while we're not looking, and may lay dormant for years.
We can liken this to a 'background noise' which has become all too familiar, but when another issue - a 'loud bang' - happens, because resistance is worn down, it will trigger a far more acute response than seems appropriate at the time. To use another metaphor, 'the straw that broke the camel's back'. This quiet sneaky stress, the not-so-easily recognised negative background-noisey interference stress is very commonly grief.
Grief? Yes, a loss, and it can take many forms. It can be a loss of a person, place, or thing. Don't forget loss of freedom. A seriously strong inhibitor/restriction can take many forms, it's a dormant distress that underlies those obvious ones. Think bullying - think trapped in some way.
What does the conscious mind do when there isn't any obvious stress problem? It looks for the immediate cause or finds a distraction. This may take the form of a burst of adrenal hyper-action, but more often an even stronger reflex, an emotion that quickly releases feelings, anger for example. What does the unconscious mind do? It does its job, it finds an outlet for the stimulated 'stress' chemicals to be evacuated from the body - and here's the give-away - it is importantly at the same time sending up distress 'flares', drawing attention to the needs of the whole, the need for a remedy using all the tools at its disposal. Sending alarms (symptoms) that are directing attention to issues, and if continuous stress is not addressed it often leads to more serious problems, giving 'time out', e.g. back pain, or lesser manageable things like ulcers, skin disorders, asthma, IBS, panic attacks, and yes, life threatening situations such as heart problems.
So what to do if we don't know what's causing this background problem, this uncomfortable feeling that we can't put a name to, which is making us grumpy, stopping us enjoying life? Maybe we want to wait for the next stronger warning sign? I don't think so!
Stress, that all encompassing word. When we just don't know what it is that's bothering us, here the advice is "relax!" and let the healing commence. Ha! Easier said than done! Why do all agree that relaxing is the answer to stress? And the answer isn't always to 'get away from it all', (and that's not always possible anyway). But it is so true, relaxing in the right context is addressing the muscular (physical) which is connected to the mental, which is attached to the emotional, which is joined to the physical... and you get the picture.
The round - holistic - circle of life can work for or against us. So the positive approach to the whole person must be the answer. The negative habitual cycle of uncomfortable existence can be turned around. Through the skills of a hypnotherapist, both the conscious and the unconscious may be used to resolve superficial and complex causes of stress, both the old entrenched and the new easily recognisable ones.
Important note: Without digging up events, without re-living yet again any stresses remembered or not, the mind will, when given opportunity find resolution. Simply because this is where the built in survival mechanism 'fight, flight, feint' serves us so well, so let's give it a chance to make our lives better in so many ways by talking to the inner self, the 'other you' can and does, with sometimes a little help, find its own way through troubled times, when we pay attention to the whole self, keep it all in good health, physically, mentally and emotionally. Remember, it's not just the worrier, it's all the family too.
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