Can suicidal thoughts be silenced?
29th June, 20160 Comments
Written by: Biodun Ogunyemi ANLP,BNLP,SNLP,C.H,Dip.Hyp
We all go through periods in our lives when we feel down and unhappy. Sometimes, it would appear we have no reason to be and struggle to understand why we feel like we do. There are of course times throughout our lives when things happen or go wrong. The death of a close one goes hand in hand with great sorrow. The loss of a job resulting in reduced income and financial security can cause feelings of anxiety and worry. The breakdown of a relationship may cause the person to feel unworthy and unlovable. These feelings will last for an indefinite period of time, depending on the circumstances and the person experiencing it, but normally lessen or disappear as time goes on.
The above reasons and many more can trigger off a bout of depression which may require intervention either medically or by alternative therapies such as hypnotherapy. This depression can be a one off occurrence as a direct result of the presenting problem which, once addressed can be resolved allowing the person to move on with their life.
There are however, some people who appear to be prone to depression and experience recurring bouts of it throughout their lifetime. At times there may be no specific reason they are aware of which can be unsettling as they never know what will trigger it off. Often, if left unaddressed it can lead to suicidal thoughts which dominate the person's every waking moment. The person experiencing suicidal thoughts may never have any plans to actually commit suicide normally due to the guilt they would feel knowing they are leaving a loved one behind but nonetheless, it should be taken just as seriously as they are constantly in emotional turmoil.
These people walk among us and may never show any outward signs of being emotionally fraught and depressed. They may never share their dark thoughts with close friends as they are too ashamed to express how they truly feel. If they do eventually go on and end their own life it comes as an enormous shock to those who thought they knew them so well as the joker of the group always smiling and laughing and appearing to be happy and carefree. However, this comes at a price to the person who can feel emotionally drained constantly putting on a brave face, always acting the opposite of how they actually feel.
The person who experiences recurring bouts of suicidal thoughts often struggles with an inner voice telling them they are not good enough or that they'd be better off dead. When these thoughts are at their loudest and dominate every minute of every day the person may find themselves quietly and unobtrusively withdrawing from everyday situations. They may not answer their phone or only leave their home if they have too. They make excuses to cancel on friends, if they are responsible for the family shopping they may only go early in the morning or late at night when they know the shop will be quieter with less chance of meeting an acquaintance. Inside they feel robotic and distant just going through the motions of daily living. When they do interact with others, if asked "how are you?" they will reply "I'm fine" whilst the thoughts in their head are screaming that they wish they were dead. They may begin to fantasise that those they cannot leave behind would be better off dead too especially if they are their sole carer. They morbidly plan their loved one’s death right down to the last funeral detail whilst filled with angst and unspeakable guilt that they are even contemplating such a horrible, inconceivable thought.
For those who experience this reoccurring problem, they often learn to recognise the initial signs that they are about to enter into a depressive mode. Instead of accepting that they are about to hit a wall and go on a downward spiral of emotional turmoil which can last for months, they should seek the guidance of a qualified professional. It is important for them to notify their GP and keep them informed of their state of mind. One course of action may be medication. Antidepressants prescribed for depression can carry side effects such as suicidal thoughts and broken sleep, which can be scary if the person knows this may happen. Therefore it is important to read the leaflet accompanying the drugs and inform those closest to them to be aware too of the possible side effects and be vigilant.
An alternative, non-intrusive form of help available is hypnosis. This is safe with no side effects and positive results can be achieved in a short time frame. Hypnotherapy relaxes the person which is always beneficial in itself. Then the therapist addresses the person’s subconscious mind, bypassing the conscious mind to get to the root of the presenting challenge. As the therapist talks to the subconscious mind, he encourages it to remember more positive thoughts gathered from past experiences when the person felt good and in a happier and healthier state of mind. Whilst the therapist cannot change the circumstances which may be causing the person to feel low, he can change how they feel about it.
Several sessions may be required to get the person feeling better and back on track. Further 'top up' sessions may be required if the person feels she is about to go on that slippery slope again of negative thoughts. Medication may quieten that thoughts in their head that they are worthless but hypnotherapy can help silence it.
“I think the saddest people always try their hardest to make people happy because they know what it’s like to feel absolutely worthless and they don’t want anyone else to feel like that”. – Robin Williams
“When you reach the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on”. - Abraham Lincoln
About the author
Biodun Ogunyemi is the founder of Optimind, one of the leading hypnotherapy practices within the UK. He has practiced on Harley Street and is an experienced hypnotherapist, trained to the highest level in Advanced Hypnotherapy and NLP and is the author of over 180 hypnosis products.
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