Can a healthy set of emotions help improve your performance at work?
5th September, 20160 Comments
Written by: Emily Hughes
Yes! Being in control of your emotions and being balanced is the foundation for success, in all aspects of life. Be that professional or personal. But what does it actually mean? We hear it a lot, ‘balance your emotions with mediation’ or, ‘bring balance into your life with mindfulness’ which is all great stuff but what does it actually mean?
Having a balanced set of emotions essentially means having a healthy set of emotions, which, essentially means having a good relationship with the range of emotions we experience. For example, never allowing yourself to be angry and spending your life suppressing anger is unhealthy i.e. unbalanced. However, appropriately releasing anger and allowing it to exist when it needs to is balanced and is healthy. Another example is fear. To live a life of constant fear is not healthy, but to have realistic fears of actual danger when appropriate is balanced and healthy.
So let’s take a look at how a healthy set of four of the most basic emotions, can improve your performance at work:
- Happiness and reality
If this emotion is out of balance, you will either be sad and gloomy all the time, or positive no matter what. So what is so bad about being positive all the time? Well nothing really apart from the fact it isn’t realistic. If you are not dealing with reality, can you effectively and responsibly perform? Part of doing a good job involves assessing the risks and challenges involved and over-coming them.
However, if you are so hell bent on seeing the positive that you are unable to recognise the potential risks or threats, they will sneak up and catch you out! If you have a healthy approach to happiness balancing it with reality, you will be able to see the necessary risks and optimistically overcome them, operating out of reality. This will enable your success rate to grow and your relationships in the workplace to flourish.
- Sadness and self-compassion
On the flip side, we have sadness. At various stages for a multitude of reasons, we all feel sad. Being balanced when it comes to sadness is all about feeling sad at appropriate times rather than all the time, and coping with that sadness, releasing it healthily. It is unhealthy to bottle sadness up as the inner turmoil becomes too much and this is when we may turn to a negative outlet such as drinking for example to drown the sadness we feel inside. It is also unhealthy to feel sad too much of the time and if this is something you are experiencing it’s worth exploring why you think this may be. Bottling sadness up and experiencing it too often can lead to destructive behaviours getting in the way of your focus at work.
However, knowing how to effectively deal with anything that makes you sad will help you to stay in control and focused, enabling your positive energy to go into your work. Having a good balance between sadness and self-compassion is the perfect mix, allowing yourself the sadness, effectively releasing it and moving on.
- Anger and passion
Much like feeling sad, anger is generally considered to be a negative emotion and can often be associated with aggression. However as with all of our emotions, at times anger is necessary and when balanced serves a purpose. We feel angry when we experience or become subject to something we don’t like. When balanced, the angry reaction is there to ignite our passion, our desire to change, our desire to make good and right the wrong.
However, when there is an imbalance, we often try to right the wrong with violence or revenge, with venomous words or harmful actions which is destructive. Sometimes we just hold the anger in and end up only harming ourselves, becoming ill tempered and hard to be around, unable to draw any happiness or joy from anybody or anything. In the workplace, unbalanced anger can jeopardise your role causing angry outbursts or unpleasant behaviour. It can harm working relationships and effect your well-being by causing you to experience high levels or stress. However, when balanced, anger can be used to drive forward positive change and when anger and passion are perfectly balanced, great positives can emerge.
- Fear and confidence
Being fearful is what keeps us safe. We need to operate with a certain level of fear to know what to avoid and what to stay away from. For example, if we weren’t fearful of pain, we wouldn’t care to avoid boiling hot water or falling over. These are some simple examples of having a healthy relationship with fear, with the level of fear being fairly low and only surfacing from the subconscious when necessary.
However, in an unhealthy relationship of fear, danger is perceived everywhere and this is when so many people experience prolonged episodes of anxiety, anxiety attacks or anxiety disorder. This can manifest itself in many different ways in the workplace from a fear of presenting ideas, to a fear of social interaction and even a fear of being in the office or speaking on the phone. If we however have a healthy relationship of fear and experience fear balanced with confidence, we will only be fearful of the ‘real’ dangers and anxiety will not stand in our way of our professional development.
If you would like to address any of your emotions that you feel may be out of balance, then hypnotherapy can help you. Enjoy letting go of stress, altering anxious behaviour and beliefs and calming anger with hypnotherapy today!
About the author
My name is Emily and I am a qualified hypnotherapist and counsellor working out of London, Canary Wharf and Essex. I specialise in taking a holistic approach to physical and mental wellness and my main areas of focus are diet and weight control, anxiety, stress and low self-esteem.
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