These days it can be incredibly hard to feel good about ourselves – especially when it comes to our bodies. Anyone who has watched a Hollywood movie, read a magazine or even seen an advertising billboard will know the media’s perception of beauty is hard to achieve to say the least.
This perception leads us to believe there is something ‘wrong’ with us, and that once we ‘fix our problems’ in regards to our looks – we’ll become happier as a result. In the meantime we dislike ourselves more than ever.
Negative self-talk is often the instigator to poor self-esteem. When we look into a mirror many of us focus in on our so-called ‘flaws’ and say to ourselves “I wish I was thinner/prettier/more tanned/less freckly etc.” – which, lets face it, isn’t very nice. There’s certainly no way we would ever talk to our friends this way.
So how do we change a habit of a lifetime and treat ourselves with more respect? It all starts with self-talk – changing negative, derogatory words into positive, more life-affirming phrases.
First and foremost, focus on the positive aspects of yourself/your body. Start off by giving yourself just one compliment and go from there.
It’s all well and good saying – be positive, but often it is harder than it sounds. If you find it hard to take yourself seriously – just fake it. Continue giving yourself compliments even if you don’t believe yourself and be consistent. Eventually, you’ll believe it.
Choose your support system carefully – sometimes being around people that engage in negative self-talk can rub off on you. Try to surround yourself with strong, confident people.
If you think you could benefit from professional support, why not try hypnotherapy? Hypnotherapy looks to eliminate negative thought patterns and replace them with positive ones to improve your self-esteem. For more information, please see our Self-esteem page.
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