How we find happiness is up to us but, according to ‘Mindfulness Expert’ Rebecca Crane from Bangor University, some will get closer to it than others because of the way they think and the way they approach life.
While it’s easy to feel like life is sweeping you along, determining how you feel and how you behave, the truth is you are always in control. The thoughts you have will shape the experiences you have. According to Crane, getting to know yourself through mindfulness is the key to finding happiness:
1. Waking up
When you wake up in the morning don’t hit your alarm clock, roll out of bed and stumble bleary-eyed to the shower right away. Instead, take a few moments to let the surrounding room permeate your consciousness. Pay attention to the light, the feel of the bedding and the sounds you hear around the house or in the street outside. Taking a moment to enjoy the feeling of waking up will help ease you into the day.
2. Walk to work
Get off the bus a few stops early, or park you car a few roads away. Take the time to feel your feet hitting the pavement, your muscles working, your heart beating and the fresh air rushing through your lungs. As well as the obvious benefits of exercise, walking to work will give you a chance to centre your mind and expend any pent up energy.
3. Savour your food
Food is all too often painted as the baddie in the modern world. Don’t think bad thoughts about food – it is not a forbidden pleasure, it is a life-source. When you next eat, take some time to savour the taste and the texture of the food. Turn off the TV and direct all of your attention to the food you put in your mouth. Part of the problem with binge eating is that the food is consumed in a flurry of guilt and self-loathing. Instead of feeling bad, think about how the food you eat powers your body.
4. Stop being self-critical
Sometimes we can be pretty hard on ourselves. We berate ourselves for not doing the chores, for not going to the gym, for eating that biscuit, for messing up yet another relationship and not getting that pay rise … the scope for self-criticism is massive because we’re constantly being told we need to improve. To be happy, you will need to stop criticising yourself and simply accept yourself and the way you feel. Have a cry, spend some time listening to sad music if you want. You are not a bad person for feeling bad. Once you accept your feelings, you can find ways to overcome them.
Happiness is a state of mind and one that can be achieved with practice. Hypnotherapy is based on the idea that our thought patterns and behaviours can be altered to promote positive ways of thinking. To discover more about how hypnotherapy could help you get what you want from life, simply head over to Hypnotherapy Areas.
For the full list of happiness tips, visit the original Female First article.