What Rowland was trying to convey was that most couples need to go through the obligatory idyllic romance, honeymoon period, a few fights and then onto daily life, to realise that they now have to spend the rest of their life with a person who is totally different to who they are. It doesn’t have to be a bad thing. It would be a mundane world if we all thought the same. However sometimes finding out that you are chalk and cheese can come as a bit of shock to the system.
If you find yourself really struggling to make it through this transitional period in your relationship, then you should consider trying out hypnotherapy. It’s not for everyone but it is an option that couples are becoming increasingly open too. The procedures used in hypnotherapy can help rid you of bad memories so you can move ahead in life. When your mind is clouded with too many negative emotions, they become fixed in the subconscious mind and the best thing you can do to shift them is to visualise all the positive things. Once you are used to doing this on a daily basis with the help of a hypnotherapist, it will become part of your natural routine and the mind won’t keep trying to take you back to the bitterness of the past.
This technique works by trying to rekindle all the good memories that have been lost in the relationship, the kind of memories that brought you together in the first place. It also downplays and erases the negative memories helping you to focus on only the good ones.
“Through techniques of relaxation, positive thoughts and auto suggestion you will learn how to cope with the anger and bitterness you are feeling. In some cases, blindsiding is used, in which you distance yourself from the painful situation and learn to look at it objectively,” writes Richard MacKenzie a leading hypnotherapist specialising in using hypnosis for break-ups and divorce.